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from the previous post -
“I
shall tell him, Arun when any body if shouted at or scolded or
insulted the very first reaction is that of anger, hatred and desire
to revenge. In children, also the same thing happens. They do get
angry and show it by many other ways, they stop co-operation, shows
no interest in the studies, show displeasure, anger of course and if
the child is emotionally motivated crying, stopping to talk, non
co-operation and in extreme cases if this happens on regular basis,
suicide”. Never insult a child by thinking that he/she is a small
fellow. This insult develops the feeling of distrust in the mind of
that child. He may not show it since he is fully aware that he is a
small person and not capable of doing anything about it but that is
very bad for his futures development. In some cases, the child
develops sadistic attitude and that is the end of his/her progress in
the life. Ordinary small insult could create so many reactions. Every
teacher and if possible every parent must know of this. Vibha said
vehemently.
“You
forgot to mention loss of health, sickness which cannot be
diagnosed”. Mahesh adds with a chuckle.
“That
means when you will teach your ward, Miss Seema, you should build
confidence in her by giving her importance and not put her at the
receiving end as most of the teachers and parents always do”! Vibha
“Arunsab,
you did not ask about what are wrong ways of giving importance to
children”? Mahesh ejaculates; pointing to Arun that he missed one
question.
Arun
looks to Mahesh with a friendly smile responding to his call,
Arunsab, and asks for the reply by signing by eye movement.
“Wrong
ways include pampering, giving unsuitable authority to them, allowing
them to be unduly friendly, cutting wrong jokes and most important
allowing them to commit mistakes and not warning against them”.
Mahesh
“In
other words, I may suggest, instead of you teaching her, let her
teach you. The process of learning and teaching are corollaries. When
you teach you learn the subject better. That is the point”. Arvind
comments positively. In the middle of this Vibha ejaculates as if she
remembered something. "Hey, Arun we should also find out in what
mental state your student, Seem is. I would recommend that you better
get her here amongst us so that we can read her mental state and that
may help us in preparing the best recourse."
“Will
it be possible”? Arun
“Try
it! I tell you an example in real life, one my neighbor’s wife did
not know English language but her daughters were sent to English
language school; they were learning in English and their homework was
to be taken, this housewife did not know the language but she had to
take the homework of the girls. In the process, she learned the
language and now the woman speaks very good English. This is a sample
to tell you so that you will understand that when Seema will come to
you better ask her to teach you rather than you teaching her”.
Arvind
“You
talk as if you know psychology”! Arun
“I
am a practical psychologist”! His comments were received with a big
guffaw.
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