Part 8
That was Naroo’s first
day in a small meeting of some persons who wanted to get out of this
habit of drinking. Some of them had already overcome this habit and
working as friend to guide others in that matter. Because it was his
first day he was introduced to rest of the gathering and there they
developed some raport with each others. Naroo likes the atmosphere
and so decided to continue visiting that joint. On that day Naroo was
asked as to how he got into this habit. He told it was a matter of
accident that he started as a casual drinker with his friends and
gradually it went on increasing and now it has become impossible to
get out of it. While Naroo was narrating his story an elderly
gentleman entered the room. All the members of the group greeted him
and he was introduced to Naroo and also Naroo was introduced to him.
This man was a psychiatric working for the group. Dr. Anthony was
working as volunteer to help the people of the group understand why
they are suffering from such habits. Why not all persons are addicted
to such habits and why some get addicted easily and some cannot leave
these habits. According to him any such habit has something to do
with one’s mind set. Dr. Anthony explained to the group that any
such habit is due to three things in one’s mind. Lack of
confidence, false ego and fear are those three things. Any person who
does not have any of these defects will never get into any habit at
all. Looking to Naroo Doctor asked with a smile, “Mr. Narayanrao
Tiwari what you think is your defect? Since you are a senior
government officer and a reputed personality I leave that to you”.
Naroo started thinking
about what could be the cause for his habit? Was it lack of
confidence or false ego or fear? For a while he was in a confused
state of mind. Naroo wanted a little more explanation about these
three causes and so he asked doctor, “will you please, explain to
me a little further to understand what do you mean by lack of
confidence?”
“That
is fine”. Dr. remarked.
“When we grow and take
up some job or any work we feel that we can manage it well. But
somehow we fail to do it properly and realize that we cannot do it.
At such moments we develop lack of confidence.” After a pause Dr.
Anthony asked, “did you ever feel such a situation any time in your
life?”
“Not exactly. I was
very good in my work. I was good at all the things those my superiors
in the office gave me.” Naroo told, “if this is all you mean by
lack of confidence then that is not the cause for my getting into
this habit.
Second cause mentioned
was ego. How about that, Dr. Anthony.
Naroo old about his
age-old argument with his father about the rituals and chanting of
wrong hymns. On hearing that Anthony kept on thinking for some time
and said, “Yes, I think this can cause a problem of ego or fear.”
“How that can be the
cause.” Naroo
“We never know how our
mind interprets happenings in our life. you are an honest man and in
that a priestly Brahmin and that can cause such reactions.”
Naroo was tired of all
this discussion and finally asked whatever it may be Dr. Anthony can
you tell me how all this discussion is going to help get me out of
this habit?
There are two methods we
generally recommend to alcoholic people and those we shall try with
you also. First method is to gradually reduce the intake of alcoholic
drinks and second is to stop drinking suddenly and never to drink
again. Which method you will prefer? Asked Dr. Anthony.
"I need time to
consider these options." Naroo remarked.
Naroo returned home
thinking about what can be the cause of his addiction. He had other
ideas in his mind. He thought it may be that there is fourth reason
possibly. Naroo thinks of discussing with his learned father and take
is opinion to find the possibility of fourth cause.
That evening he opens the
topic with his father and asks if any fourth cause is possible? On
hearing that his father takes some time to thin and comes with the
answer, "I feel the fourth or the most important cause could be
being emotional!" says Dattaprasad.
On that Naroo reflects
very positively and becomes excited to get the fourth cause. "Yes
Baba, I am very much emotional by nature and I get sensitive whenever
something wrong happens".
On that Dattaprasad says
it is given in our science of medicine that emotional people suffer
more ailments than unemotional ones. The more emotional one, the more
problems that person faces. Mostly such emotional person whether man
or woman need some moral support to ride over emotional hypes. When
he/she gets it he feels safe and that is why they indulge in habits.
Naroo finally realizes that his addiction is due to his being
emotional.
Story continues in
this next post
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